Mutual unconditional love is the highest level an interpersonal relationship can attain.
God loves us unconditionally, even when we disappoint him. He wants us to love him unconditionally, even when he disappoints us.
God embodies perfect love. He loves us unconditionally by nature. We are innately selfish. We must choose to love God unconditionally.
Unconditional love is not a gushy sentiment. At its core, it is the entwining two wills.
God gives us a great deal of volitional freedom, but he does not wrap his will around ours. We wrap our will around his.
This is because God’s will is perfect. Ours is not. He is the Creator. We are the created.
Amid affliction, we conform our will to God’s will by faith.
- We acknowledge his excellence, despite the imperfections in our circumstances.
- We express gratitude for the goodness around us, no matter how faint or trivial.
- We affirm that his ideas and methods are superior to ours, even though they baffle us.
- We subordinate our needs and desires to his preferences, without full knowledge of his intentions.
- We trust in the sufficiency and righteousness of his plan, without understanding its logic.
God never orchestrates suffering to force us to love him unconditionally. He cannot initiate evil and true love cannot be coerced.
However, he utilizes the afflictions that naturally occur in this fallen world as opportunities for us to learn to love him unconditionally.
During distress, God draws near to us as we walk in harmony with him.
Over time he reveals aspects of his excellence that we did not recognize previously.
We begin to understand that his love for us is in fact unfailing, and his ways are indeed superior to ours.
As a result, we become willing to entwine our will around his and trust him in every circumstance.
We begin to love him unconditionally.